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Short course of mental health without extra
Some of my friends are unhappy, constantly rummaging in themselves, going to psychotherapists, spoiling life for themselves and others - and as a result they are still unhappy and do not understand why.
Therefore, I decided that it would be useful to briefly talk about my life, ahem, as it were, philosophy. I'm not sure that this will help someone, it’s unlikely that you will immediately become less unhappy (and even then it is also unlikely), but I have the answer to the question “why”, and this is already something.
You are unhappy because you live in hell.
Here, of course, the inquiring mind is immediately given a new “why”, but the answer to this “why” is already gone. You do not ask why you live in Voronezh or in the house number eight. your parents lived in Voronezh, your grandparents lived in house number eight, and all these addresses are in hell.
This is not the most obvious fact in the world, becausewe live in hell a long time ago, we got used to it, adapted ourselves,and we have ikea.from the household point of view, hell looks good, we have equipped it a little bit, we have running water, we have connected a gas water heater and the Internet.
It is difficult for us to understand that we live in hell also because, in books, hell is described very unpleasantly and with a completely different interior. It is believed that in hell it is necessary to constantly experience physical and mental anguish, plus there is fig furniture and something constantly burns.
I understand hell broadly.hell is a world that does not bring joy.
That sounds a little more familiar, right?
Now I can slightly reformulate my first and only thesis.
You are unhappy because you live in hell and do not understand it. you expect warmth and love from the world, but the world cannot give you either the first or the second, it is not about it at all, it is about hell. By the way, you can’t say that this hell is hostile to you.
Not at all. he just doesn't give a shit.
For example, you want people to appear in your life with whom you can establish a relationship of trust. you would like to have friends.
The world shit on it.
Or do you want to succeed in your chosen profession and achieve great success in it.
For God's sake. world shit on this.
Or do you want to be admired, even strangers smiling and nodding knowingly at the sound of your name?
Peace shit on your desires.
At the same time you are in a good company. In the same way, the world did not give a shit about Nietzsche, Schopenhauer, Princess Diana, Kurt Cobain and Einstein. so what's Einstein. the world didn’t care for Steve Jobs, and this man gave us an iPhone.
But Jobs is not there, but the iPhone is all there is, and then it will not be there, because the world doesn’t give a shit to the iPhone either.
Just an iPhone, unlike you, understands this and does not soar over trifles.
Well, in generalthe world is quite difficult to blame for indifference. if tomorrow the cuticle on the index finger suddenly speaks and tells you that you are too rarely paying attention to it, you will also be pretty surprised.
The difference in scale between you and the cuticle is much, much smaller than between you and, in fact, the world.
“So,” the universe says, “then you are thirty-six, and, uh, you have complicated relationships with your parents, they do not understand you and do not see you as a person, is that correct?” And from this you have a strong internal conflict, which, uh, leads to the fact that you can not be realized and something else there, I can not make out the handwriting.
“Yes,” you say.
“Okay,” says the universe. - this is a truly unique situation and a serious problem. I am fourteen billion years old, the radius of my visible part is almost 50 billion light years, and I have never seen such a thing. Now I’ll give up everything, stop expanding, pause the entropy and immediately deal with your question. Sit back.
Well, actually, I was joking. The world, of course, says nothing of the kind. he doesn't care.
Actually, even the word "spit" is too strong, because the world, of course, does not care, from the point of view of the universe, you simply do not. all your petty offenses, hopes and victories are so small that they do not exist either in time or in space.
You are not for the world and your claims to the world are also not.
For some reason unknown to us, self-consciousness appeared in small and shaggy pieces of organic matter and immediately after this there were claims and demands on the world in which they came to their senses. But these claims are meaningless and pointless.
No one promised it would be easy.
In the literal sense, no one. there was no one to promise.
No one to complain. no one to curse. I do not have anyone to talk to.
In the vast and empty, by and large, the universe is only us.
Well, by the way, if our invisible interlocutor still existed and could hear us, he would be very surprised if he read our records in the book of complaints.
“Wait a second,” he would say, “I would like to clarify something.” That is, I pulled you out of non-existence for some brief and absolutely unimportant moment for me, I gave you oxygen, celery and netflix, I gave you northern lights and mountain rivers, I invented sneezing and hiccups, I gave you everything, I created you iunintentionally and accidentally invited you to your cinema with a huge screen - and you are still unhappy with something?
- Yes, what makes you think that this is all for you? Did any of you pay for the ticket? And show the roots.
And we do not have roots. we have a long list of claims and expectations instead. But there is no one to make these claims, because we live in hell.
And the most important (and offensive) - this hell was not built specifically for us.
He just was, we are guests here.
Actually, this is not even hell, it becomes hell only because we poorly understand the context and expect from the world what it cannot give us in principle.
In those places where we understand the context well, we have no problems.Not a single Russian tourist goes to the streets of Bangkok and does not howl because he lacks buckwheat.In the restaurant, no one demands to show him a movie, in the theater no one expects bright visual effects, we went there consciously and understand that the theater has its limitations.
From the very beginning, everything went wrong with us from the very beginning, because we were led to all sorts of trifles and did not immediately realize that it was hell.
The world is like hell, which, by the way, is not a very fresh idea, it exists in any more or less developed religion, I did not discover any Americans here, but simply religions have also gone a long way and at some point marketers appeared in each of them who realized thatwith the slogan “the world is hell” you can’t sell a cow.
So there were all sorts of ideas about the afterlife and other nishtyaki.
At the same timethere was a second idea - as if the gods have to do with us.
Both ideas are completely counterintuitive. the universe behaves honestly and consistently explains to us that this is not the case - and no, the petty clerk cannot come to the CEO if he has a pencil leak, because in the CEO world there is no pencil or clerk.
Why should God behave differently?
Why is this infinite and timeless creature that is present on all planes of life, in general, should take into account that your wife has once again missed the noodles and therefore she does not love you?
Could already remember the right word.
But at the same time, these ideas are too attractive and sell too well to be abandoned.
Even Buddhism, which resisted the longest, and that, in the end, gave up.
- Oh, this tariff plan now includes reincarnation? Excellent. give two.
The world is hell. you will die. all your enemies will die. all your friends will die too. The solar system will disappear and turn into interstellar dust.We are just small and disgruntled sparks in a very empty and incomprehensible for us space.
See for yourself, it doesn't look very attractive.
But it is very similar to the truth.
And it frees up.
Becauseif you accept that you live in hell, then everything is not so bad.in fact, if hell was designed specifically for us, it could have been made much, much more unpleasant.
And so we have mountain rivers, northern lights, sneezing and hiccups. and you can find a place with a good view. we have electricity, heating, hot water, netflix, the game of thrones - yes, it is not the same, but still not bad, but we still watched it just for the sake of boobs and dragons.
We have IKEA finally.
And no one owes anything to anyone, because none of us, in general, do not, and even if there is, it will not be soon.
It seems to me that it is just logical to let go of all these fields and valleys a little, to free them from our expectations and demands, to accept them as they are.
And then do the same with other people.
It’s not very easy, I don’t always succeed either, although I didn’t think of hell yesterday.
But it is very useful.
And then every little warming will be a joy, and every joy will also be a joy.
If you understand that by default you are supposed to do nothing, then it will not seem to you that you have been underdone.
And if the people around you behave in the old way, if they demand something from you, if they have an opinion, what you should do, how to behave, how to feel, then do not get angry and forgive them.
They are not out of malice. they know not what they do.
They just live in hell, and this is very difficult.
They live in hell and do not understand it.