Where does love begin?
Love ... What does this mean? Cheating yourself, looking for problems, or really getting sick of a stranger? No, it's all wrong. To love is to live! Whatever this love is: reciprocal and happy, one-sided and gratuitous, this feeling itself says that you are lucky - you live a full life, you have been given a great gift from above - the ability to truly love!
Is it love
We ask what is the beginning of love most often only when we lose it. After all, when everything around us blooms and sings, a loved one is near, we don’t think about anything, but simply follow the call of the heart. But if the moment comes when from the very height of the heavens we fall to the earth and lose our treasure, we try to understand, realize, accept. And when nothing good comes out of us, we ask ourselves the question: “How did it all begin? How did everything turn out so quickly? Where did this love come from? ”
A similar question arises in the minds of those people who unexpectedly met their couple, feel great sympathy for her, but do not know what love is, how to recognize this feeling.Then they also ask this question, wanting to know whether they have real feelings or is it just a hoax. Cheating, my dears! If you meet true love, you will not even think about it - true or false, you will feel with every hair and every cell that yes, this is it! And this is for life!
Love starts slowly
“No, I don't like him at all, I'm just fine with him. We walk with him all night long. We walk along the quiet night streets and just talk. Everything in the world. He knows so much and therefore he has something to tell me. And most importantly - he knows how to listen. He does not just listen, he hears! He understands everything I tell him, and as if he lives my life. But no, I do not like him ... "
Just a year later they got married, today their son is already a year old!
P.S. Their love knows no bounds.
Came, saw, but did not win
“That very evening I just wanted to rest. Sit with a friend at the club and listen to music. We didn’t need a company, just enough friendly talk about nothing. But accidentally turning around, I felt that the earth, not that from under my feet had gone, it literally disappeared. The disco lights began to play a hundred times brighter, and in an instant a terrible understanding came to me that without it I would no longer live.
Fate itself brought us together this evening.We faced, completely unprepared for such a storm of emotions. Our love sped over the Earth, shocking everyone with its strength and suddenly ended, and remained forever an echo in my soul and his ... "
Where is the beginning
Love can flare up suddenly, in an instant, one look and now, we are already hostages of another person. Or on the contrary, one can communicate for years, even make friends with a person, and after a while understand that he (she) is the half you are looking for.
Whatever it was, and all the greatest feelings begin with a thought. A strange thought creeps into our head, which gives a signal to the whole organism that quiet times have passed. We begin to look at a person differently than others. "What eyes! And the figure! And what kind of character, talk for days, but can not talk a lot. And why did I not notice this (la) before? ”Familiar situation? It is not funny, but this is the beginning of love.
If you are wondering where love begins, then let's consider this process step by step. Let it be an approximate judgment, and let love be difficult to call a stage, but still ...
- Sight.This applies not only to the love that flashes at first sight, but also to that which profits from for years. A first look at another such stranger. We are then able, somewhere in the depths of our hearts, to realize whether it is suitable for us, or will remain forever a stranger.
- Evaluation and comparison. How not stupid, but it is! We all appreciate each other, we compare everything with what we have already seen. We first look at the person, then we listen to him, this is not enough for a complete conclusion about him, but a rough estimate is ready! If all the “tests” are passed successfully, the communication phase begins.
- Respect is where love begins! Despising a person, we will never be able to feel warm feelings for him, unless of course he changes this attitude towards himself. And this also happens, because this is life, here the situation is even more “washing” than in soap operas.
- Interest. And the interest is completely different in different cases. It is important for one that their loved ones think in a language that is understandable to them, while others are simply drawn to those who seem to be "from another planet." It is interesting for the first to have a calm, entertaining conversation, agreeing with the opinion of the beloved (loved one) in almost every question, and the latter have a burning interest in their half, because everything, whatever they may say, turns into an argument. They argue, argue, argue.No, they do not quarrel, just more interesting to them. They love, after all, not for that, but in spite of.
- Insight Where does love begin? This is not to say that since we finally open our eyes. She crept in to us for a long time, just hiding in the bins of the heart. But here, the thought knocks to us, the treacherous thought that without this person the days are gray-gray, the music sounds quieter, and the colors of the rainbow are much less. We reject, drive away, scold this thought. And from this, we think more and more about this topic. All! Consider that you died, now you will not get rid of all-consuming love.
- Delight. Very little time passes, and our psyche adapts to the innovations that have occurred in our head. We accept reality and think that here it is - Love! But this is rather the stage of falling in love, because not a single difficulty, not a single quarrel has been overcome with the object of love, there are still no drawbacks in it, only pluses, solid pluses.
- Time. We are in seventh heaven with happiness, we love, we are loved. Suddenly, a small problem creeps in - it turns out that a loved one is an individual personality with his own character traits, which often do not coincide with ours.A conflict is brewing, he (she) leaves and it is time for loneliness. Let it last even no more than one day, in 24 hours we will have time (if we are adequate) to understand, overestimate, weigh and realize that it is she! Love!
Why? Because without it, no longer breathe. Without it you will not fall asleep and you will not go anywhere. If you lose, you will never love again. Where does love begin? - with the fear of losing your beloved (loved one)! From the moment you want instead of: “Hello”, say to her: “Marry me!”, Since instead of: “I want to go to the cinema,” I want to say: “I want to carry your child”, since how everything has changed.
Appreciate love, remember every moment, every look and smile of your loved ones and it does not matter, love begins slowly, or very quickly, the main thing is that it is in us, in our hearts!