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Where to get real men?
Once, once again, asking myself: “Who is such a true Woman?”, She realized that it is very difficult to answer this question unequivocally and quickly, because the concept of “True” includes innumerable aspects, exactly like the concept of "Woman" ... But patience is rewarded and gradually I began to find answers in books, films, people around me, relationships with a beloved man.
The first main criterion of the True Woman: "If a man feels like a Man next to you, then you are a Woman." It sounds simple, but how to achieve it?
An example from everyday life. You go out for a walk with a stroller and a small child. Your man stays at home. The first option: you go out alone, as you have done this many times, you load the carriage into the elevator and go down. The second option: before you take the stroller and get out the door, you stop, inhale deeply and remember that you are not alone, that you have a man who can do it much easier than you. Come and ask him.Attention: you do not demand and do not make a complaint, but gently, affectionately, lovingly ask him for help, ask him to show his masculine power. As a result, after the first version, we get such emotions as dissatisfaction with oneself and dissatisfaction with one’s man, and after the second one - joy and feeling of being a Woman, and the man will be satisfied with himself because he showed his strength and received admiration / gratitude for it answer. It would seem such a trifle, but from such trifles, like from puzzles, our life is formed ...
It so often seems to us that we can easily solve all the issues on our own (how could it be otherwise, because I am a strong woman!), Ranging from “carrying a heavy shopping bag from the store” to “fixing the electric grill while your loved one is watching TV”. We show our independence to the place and out of place, without thinking that it would be nice for a man to feel like a Man, to show his male abilities and qualities just as you like to cook him a delicious dinner and hear praise what a wonderful hostess you are.
Let's provide more opportunities for our men to feel like a man.So that after seeing the unwillingness to do something or having been refused, not to be outraged and not to complain that: “I knew that you would not get help from you,” quality. Therefore, if your man is not in a hurry to facilitate your daily life with his help, do not be discouraged and do not give up. Show feminine gentleness and patience in simple requests, unobtrusive gentle reminders of his male abilities and strength, and, over time, he himself will begin to facilitate your life without reminders, because it brings him a sense of his realization, relevance, masculinity. Having achieved this, it is important not to relax: not to get used and not to take it for granted when your man meets you, the Queen, half a block to the house, snatching a heavy bag of groceries from her hands or giving a bouquet of daisies for no reason. Just notice it, appreciate, joyfully accept and thank him. Remember that your gratitude inspires and inspires a man to new actions for you.
God created us different, and we must be different in order to remain ourselves as much as possible.Equal rights of men and women are not in that they become the same or in that their vital functionality is mixed, and it is not impossible to distinguish a man from a woman. Equality manifests itself precisely in the fact that each of us is capable and has the right to the one hundred percent manifestation of oneself as a Woman and a Man.
To us, women, the Lord gave physical weakness, emotionality, sensitivity, creative thinking, prevailing over logical, softness, tenderness, indecision. Nature has endowed men with strength — strength of spirit and physical strength, as well as iron logic, determination, ability to act, pressure, perseverance ...
So let's not forget that we are different, let's love ourselves and show ourselves as we are and respect the other, giving the same opportunity to open up to him.
Unfortunately, now not all men can and are ready to show their male qualities to the world, some are not used to showing themselves, while others are not allowed to do this, but potentially everyone has them. Therefore, do not be afraid of failures, be patient, ask again, then again, ten more times, until the man realizes that your request does not sound a demand or a claim, but a sincere desire to get help from him, faith in him.At first, he will be surprised - after all, until today you have not given him the opportunity to display his masculine qualities, did not give reasons to feel his power, you did well without him. In a repeated request, he can even read a reproach from your side. Of course, he is used to lying on the couch, but believe me, deep inside it is very important for him to express himself, to feel his “I can!”.
Start practicing your ability to ask for the smallest detail. For example, he can answer your request to take out the garbage: “You didn’t notice, I’m doing it already!”. Smile in response, thank him, let it not be something trivial, let it be small, but still a miracle in your life, that you have an assistant in the person of a beloved man. Next time ask about something that he is ready to do, but for whatever reason, he is not in a hurry to perform. Do not be afraid to say: “Honey, I really need your help”, “I don’t succeed, I don’t manage it myself, I don’t have enough strength / knowledge / ability” - this will not be humiliation, this will be a manifestation of your female nature . Feeling such openness and gullibility from a woman, any man with great gratitude will do everything they ask for, and even be pleased.
Be sure to thank him, show that you notice and appreciate all that he does for you. Let it not be a frequent “Thank you” after any of his actions, but at least sometimes remember what he does, note his merits about yourself and voice it out loud.
This rule of request refers to relationships not only with your beloved man, begin to train your ability to ask for all men who are close to you, regardless of whether it is a colleague, a neighbor or just a stranger in a vehicle.
Perhaps at first it will be easier for you to see a man in strangers than in a loved one near you, since our close men are our teachers and often cause us a storm of all sorts of emotions and value judgments.
One of my friends told me the story of a woman who was for her an example of true femininity. “Walking, we bought a bottle of water, and when she began to unscrew the lid and she didn’t have enough strength to cope on her own, she just stopped and looked around with a bewildered look and with this closed bottle. And immediately there was a man who offered her his help.She received her with a charming smile and words of gratitude on her lips, while the man beamed with joy that his help came in this way. ” At that moment, this woman not only gave herself the opportunity to feel herself a Woman, weak, fragile and defenseless, she also gave that man the opportunity to show her strength, to manifest herself as a Man. Although, of course, with a little effort she would have coped and opened the lid on her own.
Take help in any way the Universe sends it to you. Do not give up your outstretched hand when you get out of transport, let a man, any man, open the door for you, do not hesitate to ask an unfamiliar passer-by to help you with something, for example, to carry a weight or show the way, do not be afraid to turn for help to the guard in the supermarket ...
Start manifesting yourself as a Woman into the world and you will see how Men begin to manifest around you, and over time you will notice more and more male qualities.
Perhaps you now do not trust the male sex.
Perhaps you think that real men have long been intertwined, and at your leisure you discuss with your friends which men have become weak, effeminate, infantile, that homosexuality is developing more and more, etc.But do not forget that your World is a Reflection of you, and when you become a real Woman, only real, worthy men will be next to you: strong, noble, always eager to help by any means.
Think up and write down 5 options as in the course of the next week on the way from work, to work, in the office, in the supermarket, you will give the opportunity to any man to show himself as a man. Most likely, at first it will be difficult for you: you will not trust, be embarrassed, be shy to ask, you will assume that the man will condemn you for addressing him with such nonsense. It is possible that you will receive a refusal from someone, since your inner state of distrust will necessarily lead to the first refusal. Despite all this, do not stop, try again and again ... Do not expect anything in return, just ask, show yourself as a Woman, smile and thank.
Believe me, in every man there is a strong volitional rod, if you let it manifest, it will manifest.
The next stage: try to see a man in every man, even the most unpresentable, the most disrespectful of you.For example, in a homeless or alcoholic, look at him through the eyes of a Woman and see in him at least weak glimpses of strength and reliability. Look at men in this way, exercise, make it your daily practice, and soon you will notice positive changes for yourself. Just believe that it will work out!
Do not expect an immediate reaction from the World, do not expect an answer tomorrow, and do not wear the laurels of the winner at the first positive feedback from the World. Do not relax. The main thing is to believe that Real Men are and they are around you!
And we ourselves also made them weak: first, the mother who cares and cherishes her baby, who protects and educates him like a flower in the greenhouse, then a society that does not believe in men, then a TV where metrosexuals or aggressors are broadcast. A man with a capital letter A man makes a woman, so take responsibility for the men who surround you.
Believe that your femininity is reflected in the outside, believe it sincerely and be surprised how quickly and sensitively the Universe will respond to it by Real Men in your life!